Tag: balance

Monday, May 16th, 2011

The Garage Sale

Okay. Another week has gone by with nothing “creative” to show for it. But with good reason. I’ve been diligently working on getting our “stuff” in order – decluttering, downsizing, getting some good chi flowing… whatever you want to call it. And boy, does it feel good! Our basement is still in the midst of chaos (it’s been ignored for a very, very, very long time, and boxes are slowly being shifted around and gone through), but at least it no longer looks like this…

Or this…

The years of stuff just being shoved into a dark corner to be “dealt with later” have come to an end. Into the light with all of it, I say!

Mountains (of fabric, in this case) are becoming neatly organized mole hills, and the surplus has either been sold (in our garage sale)…

…or is on it’s way to be given to charity. The garage, the basement, and the shed are all currently receiving similar treatments. And I can’t quite put into words just how amazing it feels!!! Yay – go, me! The money we raised in the sale is going towards a future family adventure, with the exception of some that we earmarked for donation to a charity, and a few dollars that Monkeyboy Junior worked hard to earn for some spending money.

And while I was less than impressed with the people who came to the sale and spent a whole lot of energy trying to get something for nothing, it was a great experience overall. (I really wish I had gotten a photo of the elderly Asian fellow who spoke no English, but signaled that he wanted to try on my big leather biker jacket… Now HE was a character!) At any rate, this is why I’ve been away from the blog recently. Now that the sale is done, I will endeavor to find a little more balance between work and play, lest I should become a dull girl. Woohoo! ;)

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Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

Well Isn’t That A Coinkydink?

Sometimes I really hate coincidences. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing quite like the magical thrill of thinking about somebody you haven’t thought of in a while, only to have them call you or e-mail you out of the blue. Or waking up a few minutes before you alarm clock goes off with a song in your head, only to have that exact song start playing when it does. Or even running late for an important appointment, only to hit all of the traffic lights right as they’re turning green. Maybe there’s something more to it than just being “happy accidents”, who’s to say, but I’m pretty sure we’ve all had it happen to us in some form or other at some time. It’s kind of like the universe’s way to balance out “Murphy’s Law”, and most of the time, it’s really cool when it happens.

Of course, there is always a flip-side to these sorts of things. Like being in the presence of the local gossip when something completely embarrassing happens to you. Or like telling a joke at a party, only to hear that somebody just told that joke 5 minutes ago. Or even…like being in the middle of writing a post about good and bad coincidences when your friend Jenny blogs about her trip to NYC and it just happens to touch on several things in your post. Weird. I’ve heard of several cases where somebody comes up with what they think is a clever new idea only to find that somebody else has already used it. Not that people are stealing ideas from each other, but rather it’s like they’ve creatively arrived at the same place at the same time. And when you look at the definition of coincidence, that actually kind of makes sense.

coincidence - (1) a sequence of events that although accidental, seems to have been planned or arranged, (2) the state or fact of occupying the same relative position or area in space.

Coincidence

I ponder the coincidence of poor spelling.

So. Here I am, pondering where to go next with the quilty birds I’ve been making, and I decide to try the technique with another animal – an elephant that never forgets or a flying pig perhaps. But, being a busy stay-at-home-mom, I haven’t actually gotten around to making one of them yet (except in my mind’s eye), when I am cruising around the blogosphere and I find this awesome whale at Donna Heart’s site (please follow the link, as I don’t want to reproduce it without permission). Well, poop. Suddenly, I feel like I’ve been beaten to the punch somehow, and the wind slips right out of my sails.

Being who I am, I start analyzing the experience in great detail. I’m pretty sure that even though I’ve visited her site before, I’ve never seen patchwork animals on it. Yes, a while ago she had done a few birds that I liked and wanted to do something similar to, but my birds are clearly different from hers. Plus, it’s not like she sews her patches together like I do, and it’s not like I would paint over my final work like she does. Normally she does motivational pieces using female figures – so where did this whale come from?! Now, if I were to make a whale, it would look nothing like hers, I’m certain. But still. I start questioning the authenticity of my creations.

What would you do if you were in my shoes? Abandon the whole quilty thing altogether? Strive to make my work even more different than hers somehow? Down an entire pint of chocolate ice cream? *sigh* I guess this is just one of those cases when I have to remember Monday’s quote by C.S. Lewis and just keep going. Who knows where my birds will lead me – or where Donna’s whale will lead her. But instead of feeling like a fraud or thinking of myself as unoriginal, I am choosing to believe it is as if we both arrived at some universal creative consciousness for quilty animals at the same time, and then moving on.

Well, I decided to try “Butterfly Kisses” as my next quilty critter. Maybe it was because of the crappy sleep the night before, or because my “domestic assistant” didn’t actually show up to help me out, or because I was already in a bad mood because of finding the whale, I don’t know. But I’m not really happy with the results.

Butterfly Kisses - Hearts

Fist attempt. I like the heart-shaped wing idea, but not the inside patches. I didn’t even bother stitching it down.

Butterfly Kisses - Traditional

Second attempt. I returned to the “old” way of stitching as I go, but it feels unbalanced somehow. Not surprising, really…considering.

Ah, well. I guess they can’t all be winners, can they? Or when would the learning happen? I can only hope that next time there’ll be a little more “happy” in the accidents. ;)

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Thursday, July 15th, 2010

A Time to Give

So, as I’m looking at my posts for the last few days, it occurs to me that there’s been a lot of “taking” going on around here lately. Taking care of copyright, taking my own path, taking self-portraits…take, take, take! Well, that’s hardly cool, is it? I mean, there’s got to be a little giving going on too, or things are going to get all out of whack in a big hurry. Balance, people. The secret to success for a great many things is balance. <big breath> Ahh. That’s better.

Balance

Found this on the Nayland College (Health Education) website, NZ.

It is a lesson, I am afraid, that I have had the displeasure of learning the hard way. Being a “people pleaser” by nature, I far too often have said “yeah, sure” to things and people that did very little to give back. Which, of course, has led to periods of utter exhaustion, black-holed emptiness, and even complete burn out. Baaad Kate! Now, I’m not talking the little things – a small favour here, a little gift there, that sort of thing. I adore these little things, and the mere act of doing them and receiving a heart-felt “thank you” is often reward enough. I’m talking long-term relationships or job commitments or lifestyle choices – things that have the potential to wear you out over a period of months, or even years. If it doesn’t nurture you somehow in return, then you’re going to be left with a mighty empty cookie jar, and a hollow leg to fill.

For the longest time I operated under the misconception that reciprocity had to be equal in all ways, shapes, forms. “If they put one of our guys in the hospital, we put one of theirs in the hospital“. Tat for tat (teehee). Yeah, it just doesn’t work that way. It wasn’t until I shacked up with my now husband that I learned the true nature of sharing, and that in a healthy relationship reciprocity is usually unsymmetrical, but balanced. The most obvious way I learned this lesson was with money. Even though I grew up believing that every person should “pay their own way”, neither of us has ever made the same wages, so it was impossible to contribute equally to rent and food and date nights and so forth. We had to compromise and find a solution that would make us both happy. So we did.

Australian Coins

The beautiful coins of Australia, taken on our 2008 trip.

Nowadays, we contribute completely differently to our family life. Based on our strengths and resources and likes etc., we contribute different things, but to similar degrees so that neither of us feels like we’re being unfairly taken advantage of. There are also many “thank yous” in our day to day living, so that we both feel appreciated, valued, and that we’re not doing things in vain. The minor blowouts we experience are usually when things get out of balance, so we work hard to quickly find equilibrium again. It’s a good model to apply to other situations, I think. Maintaining the cyclic ebb-and-flow in a situation – remembering that the waves will come in varying shapes and sizes, but that the ocean must remain the same – plus tossing in healthy dose gratitude from all sides and you’re good to go.

With that in mind, I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for visiting my blog. On the one hand, I am rewarded daily for my creative efforts by simply having something NEW that I’ve created. It’s also given me a non-stay-at-home-mommy outlet for my creative “urges” and given me a chance to reconnect with “other” self. Woo-hoo! But, your feedback has been MUCH appreciated. Your input and comments and questions are icing on an otherwise delicious cake – mmm, cake!

So. I’m proposing to give a little extra back today. In appreciation of YOUR efforts, I would like to reward 5 of you with a small gift of KateWares. If you leave me a message in the comment section – tell me what you think of the blog, what you’d like to see in future posts, what you had for breakfast this morning even – I will randomly select 5 of you and send you each a little something in the mail. (Or, I’ll bring you something when I meet you for tea one day, as most of you at this point are my nearest and dearest. ;) ) If you are chosen and I don’t already have a way to contact you, I will e-mail you, m’kay? Alrighty then – comment away!

But first…

A little something…

I had to move…

A little lower…

So you wouldn’t get…

All distracted. ;)

The "Other" Kate Self-Portraits

A few more self-portraits, but of a completely different side of me.

The "Other" Kate Self-Portrait

It’s all about the balance, isn’t it?

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